As soon as I picked up Loveology and saw that there was a section titled Male and Female, I knew I wanted in on it. Now that I'm sitting down to write, I don't quite know where to begin.
I could spew many thoughts and opinions about gender, the war for a strange version of equality, and the role of women in a church context. But when my fingers start hitting the keys to tell my side of the story, the words are hasty and with a hint of anger -- an emotion with which I don't tend to associate myself.
John Mark Comer puts it well, stating that gender is central to our humanity, that if we abandoned our gender or gender roles, we would risk giving away a central part of that humanity. Ignoring gender wouldn't solve anything.
Instead, Comer encourages embracing gender, as we were created, male and female. Unique but different. Both made in the image of God, called to fill the earth and subdue it [Gen 1:26], to be fruitful and increase in number [Gen 1:28]. They have different roles within marriage [man to lead, to give his life away for the good of the other; woman as a partner, the one who comes alongside to get the job done], but other than that context, the Bible doesn't spell out for us what gender roles should look like within culture, time, or church.
I have my own ideas about gender roles and what they should look like within the context of my marriage, my family, and myself as an individual. My intent is not for everyone to be won over to my side. I do know that I would love for my daughter to grow up in a church that is much different than the one I grew up in; one where she is seen and heard, one where she matters, regardless of what's in her pants.
You can pick up a copy of John Mark Comer's new book, Loveology, here.